The Nystrom & Associates provider consulted for this article is Erika Teachout, MA, Outpatient Therapist.
If your loved one has agoraphobia, it can be difficult to know how to help when you don’t understand what they’re going through. Agoraphobia is a type of anxiety disorder that isn’t just feeling a little nervous or anxious. It is an intense, life-altering disorder that involves the fear of being unable to escape situations or places in the event they feel panicked, helpless, or embarrassed.
This leads to extreme avoidant behaviors, such as avoiding places where this fear might take over. Those who struggle with agoraphobia might avoid driving or traveling by plane, being in small spaces, family gatherings, or shopping in a mall.
If You’re Struggling
Nystrom & Associates provider Erika Teachout has a message for those experiencing agoraphobia:
"You gain strength, confidence, and courage in every experience where you really stop and look fear in the face. You can say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror, and I can take on the next thing that comes along.' Part of the recovery process is doing the thing that you are most afraid of and realizing you can be afraid but still have forward motion. Have safe people with you as you start going out. Limit the amount of time. Don't expect more from yourself than you would someone else in your position.
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Learn About Agoraphobia
Having a loved one provide support is invaluable, and when it comes to helping someone with agoraphobia, you want to be there for them without being too pushy.
One way to help someone with agoraphobia is to first learn about the disorder. It can be different for everyone, but it’s key to educate yourself on the condition so you are better suited to understand the unique, individual experience of your loved one. Doing so will give you better insight as to what they might be going through, and proper education is helpful in clearing up myths about the disorder.
Use Positive Language
In addition to learning about agoraphobia, being supportive and sympathetic is essential. Even though the situations that are frightening to them may not have the same effect on you, do not say things like, “just get over it,” or, “it's no big deal.” Those types of statements could make matters worse, and if they trusted you enough to confide in their struggles, belittling them will only turn them away. Instead, celebrate their wins, no matter how small, and don’t pressure them to do more than they are comfortable with. Words of encouragement can go a long way.
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Check-In Regularly
Make it a point to check in regularly, chat with them often about how they’re doing, and let them know you care. Someone with agoraphobia could be limiting their social interactions as an effect of the disorder, so don't hesitate to be the friend who reaches out first.
Be patient with their progress and support them by accompanying them to the grocery store, bank, or wherever else they feel ready to try.
Encourage Treatment
To reduce symptoms and help them cope, encourage them to find professional mental health treatment. Left untreated, a person with agoraphobia might struggle with other mental health conditions or turn to substance use. Seeking out the right help is crucial to getting better and coping with the long and short-term effects of agoraphobia, just like with any other mental health condition.
A Word From Nystrom & Associates
At Nystrom & Associates, our providers are experienced in treating anxiety and work with clients wherever they’re at. Reach out today to request an appointment online or call 1-844-NYSTROM.
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